Posted on August 7, 2016
RedReview: Crossing Your Own Timeline
People say you can never go back or never should go back to a place you once knew, because it won’t ever be the same. The Analyst and I refer to this phenomenon as crossing your own timeline. Obviously there are places you visit on a regular basis and have done for a very long time; for instance we visit Cleethorpes on a fairly regular basis. This isn’t what we are talking about.
What we are talking about are places with specific emotional and special meaning. Such as the place you went to school. It’s over 16 years since the Analyst and I left secondary school. I happen to now work opposite the school which is a little strange walking the same way I did when I was a child. I have been into school only once or twice since, as a guest, and it was very strange experience. The last time I was in, I remember seeing our old class photo in the hallway but it had badly faded with so many years of sunlight on it; yet I remembered taking that photo like it was yesterday.
It is not always about places sometimes its meeting people as well. Going back to the school analogy, Facebook allows you to become friends with the people you went to school with; in my case many of these people weren’t exactly friends in the first place. Now I’ve let bygones be bygones but I hardly know any of these people as adults. I don’t know the first thing about what they have been doing for the last 16 years apart from what pops up in my newsfeed.
Then one or two of them start suggesting a reunion and my response is a swift click of the ignore button. I accept that I am a much different person now and they probably are too. I have no desire to meet people I knew once upon a time with the vague hope that they are exactly how I remember them.